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Sunday, July 22, 2007

書展速寫(三)

不算是張小嫻的粉絲,甚至不大看她的愛情小說。不過,無可否認她早年寫的散文很好看,觀點往往一針見血。今天重溫她的金句,依然教人低徊不已。是的,在愛戀失戀的過程中,都曾忘了。

今天再溫習一下。



《重量級情話》

簡介:
對每一對戀人來說,重量級情話未必會是生離死別時要說的話。
然而,它們都是舉重若輕的,是戀人之間才能意會的綿綿情話。
《重量級情話》輯錄了作者由一九九六年至二OO六年間的散文,經編輯重新整理,分為「情人的約定」、「愛情的條件」、「幸福在遠方」及「我和你之間」四章。
這些情話,有輕的,有重的,有甜的,有苦的,有令人滿懷希望的,也有教人泫然不止的,見證著我們在人間相愛過的痕跡。

「好的愛情是你透過一個人看到世界,壞的愛情是你為了一個人捨棄世界。」

「你曾經不被人所愛,你才會珍惜將來那個愛你的人。」

「情人不是你的Lego積木,可以讓你拿在手裡,砌出心中的理想模型,有時候,你只能let go。」

「情侶之間,根本不需要承諾。我們相愛,就是一項約定。我們沒有婚書,卻有約定。到分手的那一天,我們的約定也就到此為止。」

「男女之間最深的連繫,是愛而不是擁有。」

「他有權追尋自己的快樂,他有權選擇自己的生活,他有權擁抱自己的秘密。他更有權不愛我。」

「我們每一個人都是被有條件地愛着,也是有條件地愛着別人。」

「既然知道世上沒有無條件的愛,你應該努力使自己更具備條件去被愛,同時也該學習忘記一些條件去愛一個人。」

「世事其實都是在它適當的時候降臨,只是我們沒有適當的心情去迎接它。」

Friday, July 20, 2007

書展速寫(一)

近年的閱讀習慣認真麻麻,懶懶閒揭揭吓,大多看些輕輕鬆鬆的散文集,最後一本正正經經看畢的長篇叫《Da Vinci Code》,幾驚﹗連以往最愛看的愛情或偵探小說,像是quota已滿那樣,荒廢了。

今年書展,連Art Book也提不起興趣買,慘情!

最後反而買了王貽興和張小嫻的愛情散文集,雖然他倆都不算是我偏愛的那類作家。



《關於愛情》

簡介:
自小在城市中長大的我們,總會對愛情有著一份憧憬與驛動。
然而城市人的愛情觀念,往往來自他者,並非自身,諸如流行曲、流行小說。
作者身為男性,卻兼有女性的細膩敏感。他以獨到的世俗生活感,透析都市男女的愛情觀。由男人眼中的林志玲,到女中眼中的劉若英;從煮麵時的過冷河,聯想到新舊戀情交替時的空白期。
還有令人難以忘懷的愛情電影,陪伴我們失戀、沉溺,又給我們治癒的流行曲。
「真正的愛情永遠在情歌或者愛情小說以外,你在那裡尋找愛情,只會找到它的虛幻泡影,鏡花水月,而無法真切抓得住甚麼。
當我們談論愛情,愛情就消失了。」

王貽興是董啟章的徒弟,近期很紅。不過我是聽過網友和同事的評價才敢買他的書,也好奇想知道時下男生對愛情的觀點與角度,而他偏偏又寫了那篇「由劉若英說起」,輸給他了! 王認為大部分女孩子都喜歡劉若英,是有點「奶奶品評家嫂的紮腳布氣味」,因為劉端莊得體,內歛欠攻擊性,莊敬自強又有氣質,以上統統都是世間女子欠缺但又渴望擁有的東西芸芸。死喇﹗我們喜歡她的,豈不統統都是十惡不赦的港女?

他亦說,劉是女生才會喜歡的女生,男生對她興趣不大。男生喜歡的女生類型包括熱情主動的嬌小嗲妺、豪爽吵嚷的高瘦烈女和公主型冷傲美女。喜歡劉若英的女生不會是以上三類,所以「她們在這城市注定找不到快樂,甚至找不到愛情。」
深受打撃中!!!

時下男生,你們真是這樣想的嗎? (啞口中)

不過,從他如此這般認定,略嫌有點陳腔濫調,亦忽略了現今男女生性格上的矛盾及複雜性。王的文字令我直覺感到他很老氣,那種思考模式,拍得住我哥哥或甚爸爸那一輩。

唔。。。讓我看畢此書再作評論吧﹗

另,關於張小嫻的《重量級情話》,下回分解。

Tuesday, February 06, 2007

最佳距離

-- originally posted on 15 January 2007 --


劉若英的《我想跟你歨》早看了。《我想跟你歨》和《Happy Birthday》是書中兩段教人低迴反思的短篇,都是關於時間和距離的愛情故事,儼如是愛的算術難題。

《我想跟你歨》:『多年後,我再次見到還是單身的他,這次我們的聲音跟周圍所有的雜聲混在一起,那個秘密的頻道消失了。他說,如果當時我即時回應了,故事就不一樣了。我笑了笑說,我的表達,不只不合時宜,也缺乏速度。他也笑了笑說,一生有時就是一瞬間。』

《Happy Birthday》:『所以他們之間的距離總是剛剛好,剛剛好到現在什麼都沒發生,但是永遠都有可能會發生什麼。』

距離十公尺的感情可能是最浪漫也最瘋狂的戀愛。亦舒早年的短篇《夜之女》也有描述:『最接近的一次,是在教務處玻璃回旋梯外頭,那一日陽光特別好,寒假還未結束,學校幾乎沒有人,我甫出教務處,便看到他。我並沒有停下來,一直走到貼近玻璃,才站住,離他約有十公尺,他也沒有走近,只是遠遠的問:繆斯,你選了我那科?我說是,然後兩人相對十分鐘,我說我要走了。他也說:那麼下學期見。就是那樣。然後他離了婚?我完全不知發生了什麼事。』

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距離十公尺、以年為單位計算的愛情,我們受得了嗎?

剛剛好的往往也是最難受的距離。


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後來
曲:玉城千春|詞:施人誠|編:王繼康|唱:劉若英

後來 我總算學會了 如何去愛
可惜你 早已遠去 消失在人海
後來 終於在眼淚中明白
有些人 一旦錯過就不再


《我想跟你歨》和《Happy Birthday》其實很有歌曲《後來》的影子。調子幽幽的很動聽,道盡「不復再,卻頓悟」的情懷,遺憾又釋然。

電影版的《生日快樂》,不知感覺如何呢? 寫時剛看到朋友Joven談及為甚麼香港拍不出像《The Holiday》、《When Harry Met Sally》、《Notting Hill》之類的愛情小品,道出我城缺乏浪漫情懷和靚人靚景。


也是。沒有靚人靚景的愛情小品不太浪漫吧! 缺乏浪漫情懷,是因為香港村民那未能慢活的感情態度嗎? 兜兜轉轉又婆婆媽媽的點子,對許多城市人而言是費時失時。

敢情是矛盾:Life is short,沒有心便next please,但在患得患失之中沉澱出來的感覺,有時卻最叫人回甘。畢竟愛情並沒有十拿九穩的方程式。

還看《生日快樂》。另外,由阿芳先生繪圖的
animation trailer 好浪漫 ^.*

Walk a Line

-- originally posted on 14 January 2007 --

最亮的星光
文:劉若英

有人說
最亮的那夥星光也是最短命的星
古人說紅顏薄命
綠黨說最大的光和熱是消耗能源
能源消耗完了是末日
哲學說
寧當海灘上的一粒沙
不做撲向星光的飛蛾
我只想問
如果我和那最亮的星光之間
有一條路
哪怕只是一條鋼索
我會不奮力朝它走去嗎?

同班同學
曲:梁詠琪|詞:陳少琪|編:張人傑|唱:梁詠琪

想到當年事 告別母校時
我們立志鬥快講聲 我願意
親愛的同學 你又說心事
男伴總是失望離去 無法相依
想我給提示 怎可速成美事
其實我也每天邊走邊學世事

明明身心經已重傷 扮皮外傷 笑著博他去鼓掌
愛需要合唱 太過剛強 他不會留低欣賞
明明所得不太理想 為人著想
傷心都顧全漂亮 改善了賣相
認清方向 免得變成了他身邊其中一個敗將

講到感情事 似是個生字
誰又因為選擇名次 才去開始
當我想名字 加添他人姓氏
難受我也要知相戀的大意義

明明身心經已重傷 扮皮外傷 笑著博他去鼓掌
愛需要合唱 太軟心腸 他都會毫不欣賞
明明所得未理想 為人著想
傷心都顧全漂亮 改善了賣相
認清方向 你到今天還未改你的思想
難怪你在這天沒歌可唱
行鋼線 是女人內心修養

太剛強不欣賞,太軟心腸又不稀罕。
為甚麼女人總要行鋼線、平衡木?
我們會有一天成為特技人嗎?

Before and Ever After

-- originally posted on 12 December 2006 --


十年前後,有這兩套電影,觸動我很深。那是《Before Sunrise》與《Before Sunset》。很少刻意提及或撰寫評論,但心底裡一直都知道它們對我的餘震很強。兩套電影中間相隔的十年光景,也展現了自己與主角同步成長的經歷與價值觀。

看《Before Sunrise》時,像浪遊歐洲的兩位主角一樣,抱着「世界很大,有太多地方要去、有許多人要結識、許多事物要探求…」的心態,心口掛個勇字就去亂闖亂碰,結果儍事做盡,得到白眼冷笑一堆。但不要緊,年青的心就能抵受得了。

當時亦深信,在茫茫人海中始終會遇上那缺失的另一半。

然而此片最後卻告訴我們 - 找到了又如何? 結尾很好,沒有硬給觀衆一個大團圓,留下了問號給大家。雖然我們都明白那個半年之約多數是. . .

另一邊廂,多年來不知從轉寄的電子郵件收了它多少遍 - 沒有宣之於口,卻同樣了解它給我的震撼,久久不退。

那是一個關於缺陷和滿足的故事 - 《The Missing Piece》 (又名《失落的一角》,作者是Shel Silverstein)

故事中有幾句特別抽動我的神經:

有一回,他好像找到了合適的一角,但是他沒有找牢, 又掉了。

另外一次,他抓得太緊,弄碎了。

找到了我失落的一角,什麼也不缺,卻也不能唱歌了。

像《Before Sunrise》的Jesse和Celine,他們好像找到了合適的一角,但是沒有互相找牢, 所以掉了。影片背後亦暗藏另一個問題 - Jesse和Celine若沒有別離,會是天造地設的一對嗎? 他們最後會否因為抓得太緊而弄碎其中一方了?

愛情,畢竟沒有完美。因為我們本身就不完美。

假若暗暗希望世界的另一端有個人complete自己,也許只會是另一個缺憾的序幕。

正因如此,到最後「他」輕輕把那一角放下,從容的走開。

相知、感動、錯失、摧毀、重遇、淡忘、放下,我們都是這樣長大的, 也許是很無奈的成長歷程,但也必須經過,才可看見另一個更壯濶的天涯。

所以十年後有《Before Sunset》。 婚姻生活不愉快的Jesse和感情沒有着落的Celine,人是成熟了,看事物亦有所不同,但不變的卻是那份默契和心意。Jesse和Celine看來滄桑多了,現實中的我們又何嘗不是? 兜兜轉轉,我們也很努力去圓那些未完的業。

電影完結時,Jesse好像是決意留下。但我主觀覺得他仍未是時候留下. . . (別誤會,我倒是很想看有情人終成眷屬呢!)。 Jesse與Celine一起,會是努力去填補那缺憾嗎? 他倆也滿像千瘡百孔似的,真的能令對方快樂嗎?從青春、歲月、回憶與思念沉澱得來的感情,會繼續茁壯成長嗎?

總覺得,他們還是要多走一段。

其後《The Missing Piece》另有下文,名為《The Missing Piece Meets the Big O》,是作者們想還大家一個圓滿吧!

多得上星期五與J&J這對好友晚飯,提醒了我Silverstein的《The Missing Piece》有續集 - 好奇怪,看過上集不下幾十次,卻不甚記起之前有否看過《Big O》。朋友還機靈地指出,中文版寫得更好,因為「大圓滿」比Big O更具象徵意義。

噢!

找來看看,發覺這書給自己的警示很深刻 - 也許那一角在磨練成為圓融的過程很辛苦,但總也不會苦於「碌嚟碌去」那段惶惑的日子吧? 歳月令我明白,磨圓不是隨波逐流或「冇個性」,而是給自己前行及進化的空間,令自己活得更愜意。

如果我們不能了解或面對自己的不足, 我們只會繼續以我們的稜角去抓傷人,令人退避三舍或掉過頭來傷你。更可悲的是,傷得自己最深的,可能是自己本身的稜角。

從《Before Sunrise》到《Before Sunset》、《The Missing Piece》到《The Missing Piece Meets the Big O》,一次又一次的頓悟時刻、一段又一段的成長旅程。

最大的敵人和朋友,往往都是自己。

開始明白,自己為何想重拾文字的力量、記錄生活的精彩和自己的不完美,因為自己也意識到改變很重要,正如之前在母親(3)一文所說的: 如果我連自己母親都不懂去愛,那更無法好好去愛他人。

從溫室走過幽谷再到曠野,我承認自己某些部分是枯萎了,但另一些部分卻漸漸茁壯。當下對自己說,即使我生命裡開不出美麗的花朵,也要努力使軀幹堅壯堅強。

* * 送給所有喜愛《Before Sunrise》、《Before Sunset》、《The Missing Piece》及《The Missing Piece Meets the Big O》的人。* *

Monday, February 05, 2007

In Praise of Slowness

-- originally posted on 8 December 2006 --


Heard about Carl Honoré's《In Praise of Slow》many many times. A shame that I have not read it yet but sooner or later I surely will. Just the title itself is tempting enough to me, for I am also a somewhat "slow" person and always think that speed is not necessarily a solution to all problems while slowness itself is no sins. In many ways I celebrate slowness. Being slow is to put on brakes. Our modern life is too preoccupied with speed in many aspects – technology, work, food, sports and pathetically, relationships. The phenomenal "live fast, die young" school was once a heroic equivalent of "carpe diem". However, it now seems so ridiculously obsolete in the 21st century. The art of living slowly and gracefully is, in fact, full of wisdom.

Before I can share anything more about this book, I suddenly remember that ages ago I bumped into another book about the art of being "slow". In coincidence, I was asked to write something on it while taking an architecture course. Surprisingly, there is an intriguing relationship between writing and spatial manipulation.

Milan Kundera

Milan Kundera was born in 1929 in Czechoslovakia and since 1975 has been living in France. He is incontestably a brilliant and intriguing writer who stuns his reader from time to time by his miraculous metaphors and fresh perspectives. Ages ago I was utterly captivated by his most acclaimed piece 《The Unbearable Lightness of Being》. I know I am not alone here, for I once heard about how young readers spent weeks and weeks discussing the book with their intellectual friends. 《Slowness》 represents my third encounter with his magic realism.

Slowness

《Slowness》is about speed and place, or more broadly, about time and space, the dimensions of our existence. It delineates three episodes of different time, space, and people. The first one is the narrator's account of his travel, the second is about Vivant Denon's novella 《Point de Lendemain》, and the last one concerns Vincent's adventure at the entomologists conference. Each of them stands on its own but altogether they intertwine to illustrate contrast and parody. This is particularly so in terms of the last two episodes. They are both seductive and erotic in nature but they ultimately reach different canons of tastes and aesthetics. The episode in the novella is viewed as a construction of delicacy and sophistication, while the episode at the conference is exposed in much vulgarity. Kundera shows us those who can understand and master the art of speed are going to lead a better life in their contemporary world.

《Slowness》is nostalgic, as the refined quality in eighteenth century is glorified, while the flux induced by modernity is critiqued. One of the critiques of modernity is that people today tend to celebrate speed at the expense of wholeness. As Conrad says, modernity is about the acceleration of time, and also the dispersal of places (Modern Times, Modern Places : 1998). Slowness allows us to generate or prolong pleasure, as evident in Madame de T.'s memorable night with the Chevalier, or Pontevin's joke on the female typist. On the other hand, speed detaches us from time and space, and even from our own body and flesh into a state of ecstasy, as the example of speed driving has shown us. Continuity in time is forgone in exchange for ecstasy, which is also the major critique presented in 《Slowness》.

Novel as Architecture

If novel or story telling is similar to architecture in some ways, then the most prominent part will be their shared importance of continuity as achieved by smooth transition in the course of space penetration. Without a smooth transition at meaningful intervals, it is like a person being detached from his own time and place, body and flesh, thus falls into a labyrinth. This situation is analogous to the legacy that the industrial and technological revolutions have bequeathed upon modern people like us. It's shaken up our normal perception of space. We may henceforth enter from one space to another, without going through a physically or psychologically noticeable transition. That brings us a sense of loss in space and time plus a feeling of ecstasy.

As such, ecstasy is celebrated at the expense of pleasures, which, according to Epicurus, should be prudent and modest. Subsequently, people fail to appreciate the art of pleasure, but indulge themselves on ecstasy:

The man hunched over his motorcycle can focus only on the present instant of his flight; he is caught in a fragment of time cut off from both the past and the future; he is wrenched from the continuity of time; he is outside time; he is in a state of ecstasy. (pp. 3)

Therefore, the art of novel is like the art of architecture, that is to say, both of them require a skilful designer to lead us all the way through with good transitional intervals. Certain parts need to be speeded up, while certain parts needed to be slowed down. Then one will remember that book or building because one's pleasure is derived from the experience of looking with the right pace at the right time. Abruptness may cause excitement or ecstasy, but no lasting memory. That's why Kundera drew up his formula in the following way:

In existential mathematics, that experience takes the form of two basic equations; the degree of slowness is directly proportional to the intensity of memory; the degree of speed is directly proportional to the intensity of forgetting. (pp. 34-5)

While Madame de T. is a marvelous architect, so are Pontevin and Kundera himself. Their respective patrons, the Chevalier, both of Pontevin's visible and invisible audience, and Kundera's readers, are all going to marvel at those masterpieces and be moved by the remarkable space that they have been led through. Madame de T. knows when to slow down and how to construct meaningful intervals that logically and smoothly leads to another stage. As Kundera depicted, she shaped her night “like a triptych, a night as an excursion into three stages: first, they walk in the park; next, they make love in a pavilion; last they continue the lovemaking in a secret chamber of the château.” That requires substantial sophistication, for she maps out her "immediate" and "more distant" future with exquisite rhythm, thus makes the memory of her night with the Chevalier eternal, although the night is ephemeral per se. Prolongation, as opposed to acceleration, of time is celebrated there. Pontevin knows how to manipulate the speed of a speech, for a well-delivered speech will be impressive for his audience. The same joke told by Vincent bears a different outcome because of the inability to manipulate speed and intervals. In this scenario, Kundera shows us an interesting way to conceive conversation:

Conversation is not a pastime; on the contrary, conversation is what organizes time, governs it, and imposes its own laws, which must be respected. (pp. 28)

Writer as Architect

Similarly, a writer has to be able to create suspense at certain stages with successful intervals. Kundera in this case skilfully knits together two episodes, namely Madame de T.'s adventure and Vincent's, that shed light upon the whole question of the art of living. Those two episode are different in time and space, but they share the same important lesson nonetheless, namely one's ability to manipulate speed and to create smooth transition.

Therefore, those who understand the correlation between speed and life live a better life. As such, the book is very existential in nature, a fact that has already been exemplified by Kundera's two equations of existential mathematics. If, as Vincent has pointed out, we cannot prevent ourselves from being dancers in certain ways, so long as we live in our modern world, then perhaps a better way to live will be to dance beautifully. If we cannot avoid speed in an ever-changing world, then we have to manipulate speed, organize time, construct intervals and smooth down transitions so that there will still be room for us to slow down, take a breath, and seek pleasure in Epicurus's terms. Similar philosophy applies to architecture. If an architect cannot resist the flux due to technology, one should make use of it, keep the essence of the good old principles, and make innovations which are unattainable in the past, so as to open up new aesthetic possibilities in space.